2012 pish posh! :/

AND ITS NOT HAPPENING..!

----------------------------> 2012 end world proof not true

my angry post :)

I for one, seem to have this weird vibe of attracting the worst lot :P 
N it sure does have its not-so-delightful consequences. I dont really give a damn to people who make judgements on people without knowing them. Now u must be like.. 
"then what is she doing now" O.o :P 
well this is a way of me letting go that 0.1 possibility of being pissed at such people & letting go anddd here it goes..
Thinking of me as a bitch isn’t going to solve one damn thing. It’s not going to fix your petty preppy problems, it’s only going to create MORE. 
It dosnt make me 'fear' U. It puts me in a playful mood and it brings me that much closer to punching you in the face for the entertainment I need at the expense of boredom of ur thoughts.
Just because I’ve been playing this nice girl card since the first grade doesn’t mean it’s REAL. Because it’s NOT. I am who I am and the real me isn’t afraid to snap a bone.
Bitching about me isn’t going to make you a nice person. It just makes you the bigger BITCH :)
Honestly. Damn. It really pisses me off when people refuse to put their ego aside n know eachother because I refuse to be their slave and bow to their every command. 
You dont know me. I have seen hell. It changes you. You become a stronger more independent person and you fear Nothing!
So next time u choose to Unlike me.. Do it! :D for knowing the fact that whats coming back at U! 


^_^

Today's blog post is about the not so worthy (practically, very much) Looks!
Its since the time a specie called Human evolved & came into being and the world became WAYYYYYY too focused on looks! Its when sentences like these started corrupting the term language itself..
"am I pretty enough" 
"am I wearing enough makeup"
"am I tall enough"
"am I fat?!"
Fact/Reality: this DOES infact Matter, to whoever says otherwise big time BS on that!
It isnt what I feel, but what the world feels, but blabbers otherwise.. Its a way to show n make oneself feel beautiful in the matter of Looks! 
But the other true side of this being Its Inside what matters.. really? No!
Its not the way it works.. u can say whatever u want to make urself feel all nice n proud, but the truth remains that Its how u use them. Its a fugly truth, if u cant deal with it, this most certainly isnt the post 4 u. 
Jesus said beware of the wolf in sheep's clothing. He/She might look nice and proper on the outside but may be very different on the inside and may be trying to fool you to fall into their trap.
Things are not always as they appear. N this I hope isnt ur 1st reminder!
It appalls me that if you type in ‘beautiful’ in Google images, you see woman seemingly flawless with half a shirt or no clothes at all. 
Well no hidden surprises there! when we see people like Heidi Klum & Seal, Kareena Kapoor & Saif Ali Khan (d list is endless :p) together!.. is when we begin to wonder.. Now its not about What they see but How they see it! The mind is everything, what u think is what u become.
It pays to be beautiful but what U must remember is Wit above all! 
If it weren't for the brains the ugliest of males wouldn't/couldn't have had grabbed the prettiest of bottoms!
If given a choice between beauty or brains, think wisely (which meaning I'd opt 4 brain anyday!)


A person is beautiful when he does what makes him happy. Screaming along with music at the top of their lungs makes them beautiful, then be it.
Dont hesitate in revealing ur real side, but be smart enough to hide the unpresentable.. Cos the world will tell u 2 behave like a saint but itself partially listening to his devil's side at the same side ;)

you..

I only knew u for a bit

If only for a short time

but as we became friends

getting to know u didn’t stop on a dime

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U never stay near & walk that mile

for what you're worth

what I need from u is just a smile

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If & when u come back

I have a lot to tell u

about how much we lack

how much we need to do

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I remember u being bold

Connecting every dot..

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Your light shines over everything 

like a finished diamond gleaming 

& the light that keeps on glaring..

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Forests disappear & beaches appear

where the only constant is change and

people move like time on the tip of the second 

hand on a clock & the clock doesn't stop

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Now it gets harder and harder 

as the dreams run by fast as a snail slithers

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So much I can say about you 

without further ado

but I will save it

until u feel the same way too..

cut to the chase or not.. (Part II)

The chase...the eternal game...revered by both men and women for...well for as long as there HAS been men and women. So many I know say they hate it , but in all reality, keep playing this game and do it very well. So why do so many think it is bad? I don't...well at least not if done with good intentions. I think keeping the chase is what gets us interested in the opposite sex. I mean really, how fun would it be it a guy walks up to us, says "hey, you seem nice, lets date", and you agree! The chase can be fun...and all the flirting that comes with it... healthy!!!
When U first start looking to date, U get urselves all prettied up n head out on the prowl. U go to places that interest u, hoping to find men with similar interests n when u see one that looks worthy, u catch their attention n then.. well the rest depends on ur character..however u proceed from here, the game has begun n the chase started...and for u, I prefer the "chase him till he catches you version". Game on! :D
In the end I'd like to quote Dr.Suess :
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"

lalalallaallaalaaa..

the final frontier...these are the voyages of the...ah crap...wrong "show"! Seriously, the word SPACE is not a thing that you wanna hear when you are with someone. How the hell do u deal with hearing that.. From what I see many experiencing it usually isn't very well, even when you are told with it that "I think we are losing our spark, and we are becoming too routine. The excitement of the chase is what keeps things fresh and I don't want to ever lose that with you." REALLY???
Who do u think u r fooling.
I guess this just re-enforces my Mr. Right-Now theory...and that without the chase, no matter how much spark you try to keep in a "relationship" ('m not  a big fan of that word, btw) things just don't always go as planned. In this case...backwards. Oh well...welcome to "the friend zone"! as discussed earlier.
Some things we must keep in mind..
Life does not always give us what we WANT, but it provides what we are 'supposed to Have'. U may not have much by some other peoples standards, but to urself U must believe that "I am rich beyond belief!"
If you have someone who loves you...embrace them!
If you love someone...tell them!
If you are single...enjoy learning about yourself...and smile! You never know who may see it and be swept away!

where r u..

Classic tale of the emotionally unavailable man (although the premise goes for women too)!
Here's a situation, although 'm not gna b revealing any names, so lets call this grl "B" 
B was out  one night, and got introduced to a guy by their mutual friend. Needless to say, after finding out they had a ton in common n had awesome physical chemistry, d 2 ended up spending a very sleepless night together(at a day/nyt cafe :p) d ultimate dating no-no!
Now this all started out not too badly. d 2 went out a few times..in d beginnng. She got to meet 1 or 2 of his family members, he met a few of her BFF's N they "hung out" about once a week. Not too bad for busy people or so she thought. But in reality she felt like all they did was get together, get close n that was it...he never asked her out to do anything other than come over to his place past the first month (in reality about 4 hang outs), and she knew this was never going to progress..
So the conclusion is.. In essence he is invisible...unless he wants his perks. Sure they put in just enough effort and contact (mostly text or e-mail...so much easier to maintain emotional distance that way) to keep u strung along, but that is all. It's not that this is a "BAD" guy. He just isn't into relationships, due to fear of getting hurt (who said a woman scorned was the worst thing) or because he just isn't that into U!  You may be the most awesome, kindest, good looking woman...but unless there is more than that physical chemistry...it ain't going NOWHERE!
Not that she was being used, or would let herself be used (at least not intentionally, I think that sometimes people have a moment of being the proverbial doormat)
If you ARE in fact dating the INVISBLE MAN, please..GET OUT!
A few do evolve to want something more but not a lot. There are good men out there who are ready to be your Mr.Right-Now. 
Do yourself a favor n go find one of them. u DO deserve the best person for you, ladies! 
Trust me Yourself!!
No1 but urself!

dont need no friends no more :S

Doo do doo doo, doo do doo doo.. ok that was supposed to be from d Twilight Zone, which is pretty much where I think the friend zone lies next to & I am pretty sure beside that is the Bermuda Triangle :P
The friends zone is one of those places that a relationship can go when all the spark is gone or in some cases never was (Typically realized after a few days of closeness that there is nothing else but great intimacy & friendship). It can be obscure N a little hard to understand just HOW you got there. 
Most people don't understand how it can work N try to avoid going there like the plague. 
As from what I recollect what a friend told me that he didnt think that it was a bad thing. "Isn't it SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much better to run into an ex and be able to say hi, and not feel awkward or worse, like you wanna kill them?" were his views :p
There are so many people who believe that men n women can't be true friends, especially after dating or being intimate. I call BS on that one. Yes it does take a strong person to deal with residual feelings, but why would one potentially give up one of the best friendships U have, just because you don't feel "it" anymore? I know a lot of people that have maintained very good friendships with men thay have "dated"
Can you ESCAPE the friend zone?.. well that one I am not sure of. Most sources say NO! 
Apparently, a friendship can develop into a "relationship"...but if you have dated n have moved to the friend zone, d consensus is there is no going back, this is a theory I personally have not tried to disprove, as I like where I am with my guy friends, no matter how we got there & dealing with an amazing crush..
but would still like to know IF IT IS POSSIBLE??? Do YOU know??? If so then drop me a message :p

Keep in mind If its not going anywhere, dont let it go backwards

cut to the chase or not..

Its very common for us gals being told "DO NOT CHASE THE MAN!! Let him pursue you...that is that way they like it!"  since we are little children :/

But then, more and more I see articles like this (AskMen.com's Top 10 Ways to Make Women Chase You) and the whole situation gets confused..

don't completely agree with a girl outright chasing a guy.  

I believe that in the majority of situations, in order to have a guy "fall in love with u" he needs to be feeling in control of the situation. 

They have to be confident, & know that will be all right with what happens between the two of you. 

Men are, since the beginning of time, traditionally the fixers and the providers. No, they probably won't dote and go "there, there honey" but they WILL be the "all right, who hurt you and how do I make it better" person. 

When they truly love you, they will do anything in their power to look after you. BUT they have to feel stable in where they are in life first. 

Few men are willing to take on a partner in life if they aren't sure they can provide for them. 

But a man in love is one of the most amazing people you will ever encounter.. he glows, he is confident, he will rock the world of the woman he wants to be with!

Think about all that said above when you decide to "chase a man". A proud & confident guy works for everything he wants in life. That includes his girl. So let them know you care, give them the love and support they need & last but not least BE CONFIDENT IN WHO YOU ARE!

I have heard that there is nothing more attractive than a confident woman! ;)

Muse it dont Excuse it

The sense of Touch.. importance of Human Touch! & Y u shud'nt abuse it! 

Obviously it feels good to be held by someone you care about, to make love to them & of course the rush you get. 
Even the gentle brush of a certain someone against your skin can make you tingle.. & feel like U are on cloud nine! 
But did you ever wonder WHY>??!
It isn't just something we imagine, or a feeling our brains conjur up bcoz we are lost in the moment. But in reality, its a surge of bonding hormone called oxyticin. Yes d same one that creates d bond between a mother & her baby. It is released during cuddling, hugging & other close encounters...in BOTH women, and to a lesser extent men. This hormone also helps to battle cortisol, the nasty hormone that is surging through your body when you are stressed! 
U must have noticed that all the stress in your world melt away when you are in the arms of your lover...obviously there is some scientific merit to how U feel!
On the flip side...this is also another reason why women especially should stay away from one night stands and having "friends with benefits". 
YOU WILL BECOME ATTACHED! 
Your body WILL make sure this happens & d more u get close with a guy, d greater the amount of oxytocin! This is why, after you stop being intimate in ANY relationship you start to feel more like friends..not that that is a bad thing...IF you never have another person hug you or touch you again in your LIFE!
Guess now U know why u thrive on intimacy & hugs.. coz u(at some point) need it! To be mentally healthy, but also physically...and the extra excersise doesn't hurt either! 

dont Feed the Need

What is the worlds fascination with NEEDING to be with someone? If you aren't ok with yourself, then you look outside yourself to fill that void. Some people NEED to have someone "love" them to feel validated and whole...but this just becomes a self destructive behavior. Yes, it is great to have someone to hang with n get close with. But in all honesty, if you can't find happiness within yourself, you will never be able to feel happy and you will be in that constant circle of dating, neediness, resentment when your needs aren't filled, loneliness, and then dating to fill your void again.
If you have to try this hard and NEED someone in your life...best look at yourself and ask WHY? Life really is too short not to be happy, and when you are happy with you, the rest of the world will see that and so will all the people around you..
Having to be with someone, for the sake of not wanting to be alone, is needy...being good with you, and wanting another's company, because it adds to your life, that is a whole different outlook!
can do without, but if I don't have to, then why should I ?!  ;)

Today 'm gna live upto the Blog's Title & shower u with my offhand thoughts & talk about everything running hastily in my head right now..
I find many many of my friends repeatedly questioning about relationships & dealing with the opp sex & the scary 4 letter word.. Love 
To start of with lets say what is love.. but then I dont talk about things 'm not aware of :p

Love is that state of affairs that the brain dreads happening...it means the heart has taken over all rational thinking, & the brain is thus (figuratively)....SCREWED!


Well that now reminds me of the very much dreaded V-Day! (a non hopeless romantics view)

I don't know how many of you LIKE Valentine's Day, but I truly have some very mixed feelings about it...

The history surrounding Valentine's Day is confusing, but generally speaking, it is a leftover from the Roman calender's prior observance The Feast of Saint Valentine & that when Saint Valentine was jailed, prior to being executed, he sent a note to the jailer's daughter whom he was in love with that was signed "From your Valentine." The traditional observance was brought on by modern day greeting card manufacturers. And thus one of the most loved AND hated days was born.

If it werent for the sweet friends who send me gifts over or even the heart felt wishes  I would have boycotted the day all together! I guess in every girls' denial there's still hopes of being swept off of her feet to a perfect romantic date.. If not then 'She's the Man!' :P

thus to all of you hopeless romantics ...enjoy everyday...make sure your man or woman knows you care...whether it be a flirty text, a heart shaped note in their lunch, or making them dinner just cause. And spoil them ALL the time, not just one day a year! 

Heartbeat of my Guitar

though I don't play you loud & clear

though I leave you aside for much time

you are the harmony

you are my freedom

when I pluck your strings

it makes me smile..

weird little tool

with frets so many

to get each one right

'm gonna have to strive..

beat or no beat

chord or no chord

when I put my ear close to your chest

our strings get surely attached..

I hear you closely

I feel you vibrate

even when in sadness

playing you makes me celebrate..

you are no person

I ain't no thing

but the chemistry we roll in baby

is as good as a fling..!

paradise through my eyes..

A compilation of the pictures in the form of a Video that I clicked on my trip to Kashmir.. 

P.S : My very First Youtube Video! :D