where r u..

Classic tale of the emotionally unavailable man (although the premise goes for women too)!
Here's a situation, although 'm not gna b revealing any names, so lets call this grl "B" 
B was out  one night, and got introduced to a guy by their mutual friend. Needless to say, after finding out they had a ton in common n had awesome physical chemistry, d 2 ended up spending a very sleepless night together(at a day/nyt cafe :p) d ultimate dating no-no!
Now this all started out not too badly. d 2 went out a few times..in d beginnng. She got to meet 1 or 2 of his family members, he met a few of her BFF's N they "hung out" about once a week. Not too bad for busy people or so she thought. But in reality she felt like all they did was get together, get close n that was it...he never asked her out to do anything other than come over to his place past the first month (in reality about 4 hang outs), and she knew this was never going to progress..
So the conclusion is.. In essence he is invisible...unless he wants his perks. Sure they put in just enough effort and contact (mostly text or e-mail...so much easier to maintain emotional distance that way) to keep u strung along, but that is all. It's not that this is a "BAD" guy. He just isn't into relationships, due to fear of getting hurt (who said a woman scorned was the worst thing) or because he just isn't that into U!  You may be the most awesome, kindest, good looking woman...but unless there is more than that physical chemistry...it ain't going NOWHERE!
Not that she was being used, or would let herself be used (at least not intentionally, I think that sometimes people have a moment of being the proverbial doormat)
If you ARE in fact dating the INVISBLE MAN, please..GET OUT!
A few do evolve to want something more but not a lot. There are good men out there who are ready to be your Mr.Right-Now. 
Do yourself a favor n go find one of them. u DO deserve the best person for you, ladies! 
Trust me Yourself!!
No1 but urself!